5 stages of forgiveness
If someone has hurt you recently, you know how painful and difficult the process of forgiveness can be. To avoid retaliation, you will hold back your anger and keep your mouth shut, or perhaps give answers .
Or you shouldn't want to live your life the way others want you to live . This is your life , you cannot be the remote control of someone else's life .
When you do something good for the people, or when you do something against your will , no one has the right to stop you .
But if you were wrong , and you were brave and fought with others, hurting their feelings, they belittled them in the past and ultimately ended up with a huge trauma - In this situation, you may feel bad for the mean words you used .
Forgiveness cannot be bribed or sold . It is too personal for someone to forgive or not to forgive . If you forgive someone, you have nothing to lose , in fact, people will respect you as an altruistic man/woman
But if you do not forgive a person , and because of your enemy , if you try to hurt that person , people will call you a fool . Response action is not success . It gives you neither wealth nor reward . It can only give satisfaction . The satisfaction of what ? your victory
Remember, when someone insults you , it means they are jealous of you ; because of their jealous nature , they try to hurt you .
Additionally, you should be proud that someone envies you because they lack what you have and they don't, after all, you are a lucky person in their eyes. .
Perhaps if you end up retaliating , you may suffer a lot because of your retaliatory actions because it hardens your heart , it will cause you mental disorders and you may become a narcissist or leave it .
So, forgiving someone is really important . Because we can know how the other person will feel about what he did in your past . On the other hand, few may not have the courage to apologize for their indecent act or words . So we must have the courage to forgive .
The 5 stages of forgiveness.
Consciousness - First you need to notice why you are angry ? Bitter and crab , etc... only then you will understand and think whether to forgive this person or not . until or unless you have negative emotions, you cannot engage in .
Circumstances - Forgiveness is not meant to be ignored or suppressed . Only through circumstances can you have the courage to forgive .
Affirmation - If someone has hurt you a lot , don't try to run away from that person and find unwanted excuses , even though you don't want to meet that person again in your life . But you have to accept that the person has hurt you and it cannot be changed .
Download - Until you forgive the person , you will be emotionally sick and depressed . Because those offensive words will cause pain in your heart . You will suffer a lot, and the one who hurt you would enjoy it with his popcorn .
Understand - Finally you must throw away your grudge and vicious nature . You should also realize your mistakes . Only by doing this you can get positive emotions and live a peaceful and closed life, not an animal life. .